We've all heard the rants, from monster in law to out laws everyone has a horrible in law story. Or do they? I was always told I would understand when I got married, warned almost. But my in laws aren't monsters or out laws. They don't insult me or try to talk my husband into divorcing me, in fact usually they always support us both.
This is not a "look at how lucky I am" post, this is because I want you to think about how lucky you are.
Maybe it is just because my Dad didn't support me, but I see every hug and phone call from my in laws as the sweetest thing in the world. Are there times they upset me? Sure. Just the other day my mother in law made a joke which upset me, but the second I said "that's a touchy subject" she dropped it mid sentence. Nobody is perfect, we all say things we shouldn't without meaning to or even knowing. No doubt I will have upset or annoyed them at some point, but we always are there doing our best and that makes those times so easy to move on from.
There are many things my in laws have done that make me feel so special, they almost heal the wounds left by my father.
The first time I visited them, I was so nervous. I had had so many warnings that in laws are horrible people that I was preparing myself for their hate almost. But they were great! They talked to me about movies and foods and so many things that I cannot list them all. But they were friendly. By the second/third visit they were giving me hugs and telling me they were so pleased their son had me in his life.
When we told them we wanted to get married a bit sooner than planned (we went from planning a two year away wedding to a month away wedding) I was prepared for the hate. But they hugged us and said they would support us whatever we chose to do and while they would absolutely be there if we wanted they would understand if we didn't want anyone. Silly! Of course we wanted them there!
For our actual wedding they drove down the day before and stayed up until 2am the day of helping me with wedding prep (like flowers). And even bought me an actual wedding bell! My Mother in law ran around organising everyone whenever I needed so I could get ready. She was amazing!
On my birthday I was supposed to go to London, unfortunately I was so ill I almost collapsed. So off to hospital I went. When we got back she made sure I took my antibiotics, tucked me up on the sofa and waited on me hand and foot so I could recover. My father in law sorted out a bunch of movies for me to watch and they chipped in with my husband to get me a Hudl!
But the biggest thing was helping us move. Not only did they help financially (my father in law loaned us money for moving costs), they helped emotionally (my mother in law listened to me complain about a million things and gave me a hug when I needed it) and physically (they arrived 2.30pm Sunday and helped us load and finish packing (clean washing and kitchen stuff mostly) as well as unload and unpack on the other end. They treated us to dinner, made sure we were settled and then took the 2 hour drive home late Monday night, just in time to roll into bed when they got home.
I guess what I am trying to say is, I won't always see eye to eye with my in laws. But they are amazing and I love them. And you know what? When they do annoy me or upset me it is because they are FAMILY and that will happen. You fall out with your mum and dad sometimes, this is no different.
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